Wow. Great advice from those in similar territory!
Even more disturbing : there is a common theme.... a JW toxic mother type!! Looks like we all know them / had one!
Mary J Blige
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I'm a coward.
by cappytan insince the move, it has been so enjoyable to not have jw's breathing down our necks asking why we didn't make the meeting, or having to pretend to be "spiritual" in front of family all the time.. 90% of my week is virtually stress free.
then, my mom calls or texts wanting to talk to her grandkids.
every dang call, she asks about the new congregation, if we went to the meeting, etc.. why can't i tell her to fk off?
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A question for the shunned re: hide or seek
by dubstepped inso here's my question as a newly daed person that is summarily shunned.
do you hide from family and act like you don't exist or do you let them know you're still here and seek them out?
they want you to be dead, like you no longer exist, because strict avoidance makes it easier on them.
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Mary J Blige
The higher ground has no meaning to me. In that, I agree with Sabin - they will twist your contact as guilty conscience and regretful of your decision. Or those they confide in will gossip and speculate.
As long as you still send cards, you still have that negative association and link to the bOrg. Like a millstone.
If they wake up, they will soon track you down. They will accept their part in all of this and not hold a grudge, because you were allowing them the freedom to follow through with their doctrines. They will not resent you or resent the years of no cards when it was only ever going to be one way traffic.
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are there really 8 million jw's?
by wannaexit inlast circuit assembly there was 700+ present and 1 baptized.. recently there was a foreign language assemble of over 500 and 1 baptized.. in the last 5-10 years i haven't been to one assembly where there has been more than a handful baptized.
at the memorial all i see are the same old faces that have been coming since the flood.. the hall complex i attend has 6 congregation and several groups-there is negative growth.
when you factor in the demographically aging folk and the many who have already passed away, i don't know where they get the 8 million.. i know that most of the growth is from the developing countries, but still i think they are fudging their numbers.
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Do they count all baptised but not DA'd? Even though you're inactive? That's the only way I could see the numbers could be fudged. -
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FMF: A Wake Up Story
by freemindfade insorry for the length of this, i hope anyone stopping by to read will take the time and read it.
i haven't included any things i would consider "apostate" specifics about doctrines, or major scandals.
it's just a general layout of the path i took to becoming an exjw.
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Mary J Blige
Sorry FMF, I had to dislike that post.
WHO DOES THAT!? That's bat shit crazy!
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S*** JW Parents Say
by Dissonant15 inmy mom especially had some go-to phrases that to this day echo in my head and piss me off.
things like, .
"don't get mad at me for enforcing the rules, because jehovah made them, so if you don't like it, you're disrespecting him.
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Mary J Blige
Of old, "bad associations spoil useful habits". My worldly friends were only allowed to stay over if their parents let them come to the meeting the next day (potential for me to conduct my own home bible study... yay!) As you can imagine, I didn't have many friends.
Recently it was "just get married so you can come back to da twooof!!" Like, yaaaaay! That's a great incentive for me to stay living in sin!
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Mass disassociation pact...
by freemindfade inany takers?
we can pick a date and pull the plug?
lol .
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FMF: A Wake Up Story
by freemindfade insorry for the length of this, i hope anyone stopping by to read will take the time and read it.
i haven't included any things i would consider "apostate" specifics about doctrines, or major scandals.
it's just a general layout of the path i took to becoming an exjw.
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Mary J Blige
"The power of the apostates..."
Back in the day I thought my fear of apostate sites was my hyper bible trained conscience in action. Didn't realise that was ingrained fear through cult mind control and not my conscience at all!
The big J is watching and sees everything! For a child, that's a pretty massive deal. As an exjw, it's crazy - all the things that you thought you knew and understood, that you justified, that you learn over and realize how deluded and twisted the angles were.
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Japan beats South Africa in the World Cup rugby
by joe134cd ini just want to congratulate any japanese apostates in their win over south africa.
have to say it was a bit of a wtf moment for me.
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Mary J Blige
Bonsai - I reckon after that game, you will be hearing a lot more from your excited neighbours. It was an impressive game alright, they had just cause for jubilation! -
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What Just Showed Up in My Facebook Feed
by Dissonant15 ingross!!!
i think i'm going to be sick.
time to unfollow & block more people... .
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Mary J Blige
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Blurring of genders
by Saltheart Foamfollower inas sometimes happens at elders meetings with the co, he has a letter from the branch to read out.
this rarely is made available later so any policies have to be acted on from memory.
this visit a letter was read about blurring of the genders and in particular brothers dressing in a metrosexual style - tight clothing was mentioned again.
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Mary J Blige
Obfuscate. I like it DD. Never did understand the blurred lines between metrosexual and homosexual. No doubt there will be more on this as each CO takes their own interpretation westward.